Monday, October 29, 2007

Another Week

I'm surprisingly awake today - it's Monday. That's not supposed to happen. I did have a pretty exhausting weekend and don't remember anything after I hit the pillow at 11:30 last night.

My R&R day on Thursday was a welcome considering my life nearly fell apart the next day. I won't go into detail but i'll just say this... marriage is work, life is work. I never thought I'd think about the things I once considered an absolute no in my mind. I never thought I would have had a reason to. I also never thought I'd have to wonder whether I was going to be able to have children. But always, when it rains it pours in my life. I'm hurting, I feel lost, and I don't know how to get back to the good times. I don't know if I want to. The road ahead is going to be very long and very hard.

Congrats to the BoSox winning the World Series last night - very excited about that.

I've got some stomach issues going on today. Not sure what's up. Could be all the stress. Who knows.

My company has taken a new approach to us employee's - lots of meetings and training sessions throughout the week now. I've got one every day except tomorrow. Hate it.

Back to work

Friday, October 26, 2007

This is what I need to believe right now...

Whatever It Takes by Lifehouse

A strangled smile fell from your face
It kills me that I hurt you this way
The worst part is that I didn't even know
Now there's a million reasons for you to go
But if you can find a reason to stay

I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down
And if you give me a chance
Believe that I can change
I'll keep us together whatever it takes

She said "If we're gonna make this work
You gotta let me inside even though it hurts
Don't hide the broken parts that I need to see"
She said "Like it or not it's the way it's gotta be
You gotta love yourself if you can ever love me"

I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down
And if you give me a chance
And give me a break
I'll keep us together, I know you deserve much better

But remember the time
I told you the way that I felt
That I'd be lost without you and never find myself
Let's hold onto each other above everything else
Start over, start over

I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know I've let you down
And if you give me a chance and believe that I can change
I'll keep us together whatever it takes

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Bad PBS Special

A few short things then I must go back to work...

We had what's called a "Lunch and Learn" meeting today. My boss had us take a test a few weeks ago called "Discover Your Strengths" which is based on a book of the same name. Well, she LOVES audio self-help stuff so for the next few Wednesday's we'll be listening to the follow up to "Discover Your Strengths". It's about applying your strengths in the workplace. Apparently it's this whole new 'Strengths Movement' corporations are initiating. The best coorelation I can use is that it's pretty much the power of positive reinforcement to motivate and make better employees. The voice on the audio CD though is this British guy that speaks in a very monotone voice. I feel like i'm listening to a PBS special gone horribly wrong.

In other news it's disgusting out today. The rain we're getting here could be better used out in California right now. Tomorrow is my R&R day. Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've been looking forward to it for two weeks now. I've got a full day of pampering planned.

I've got so much going on in my head right now but i'll just say this... I realized this morning that I lost sight of Jesus. Without Him - I'm nothing.

"The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." Zephaniah 3:17

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Choo Choo Trains

As if yesterday morning wasn't bad enough...

I must not be getting a deep enough sleep at night. Even though I seem to sleep for a good amount of hours i'm still pretty tired when I wake up. Which, of course, means I stay in bed for far longer than I should. But, I managed to actually get up and get ready on time to catch the train this morning.

Let's talk about my morning train ride for a second. I catch the 7:42 train from Westfield to Newark. I'm not a morning reader, I don't want to talk to anyone, I just want to sit and listen to my IPod. Unfortunately, my headset broke this morning as I went to pull it out of my bag. So for 20 minutes I sat and listened to the guy next to me cough without covering his mouth (nasssssttttt). I get to Newark at 8:04. Now, there's two trains in the morning that go to New York. One that goes straight there and one that stops at Secaucus and then goes to NY. I have to catch the Secaucus one. This is what it looks like on the screen:

NY-SEC

There's normally an 8:05 that stops in Secaucus but I usually just miss that one so I catch the 8:13. Most of the NY & NY-SEC trains arrive and depart on track 1. Sometimes the NY-SEC trains arrive on track 2 if it's a backed up morning. Well, I get there at 8:07 and the screens aren't showing any track numbers. So I wait and wait and then the 8:15 train to NY says track 1 so I conclude that "well, that means the 8:13 NY-SEC train will be on track 2 because there's not enough time in between". Sure enough I get up to track 2 around 8:09 and the screen finally shows the 8:13 NY-SEC train arriving on track 2. I give myself a pat on the back for thinking smart and I wait. 8:14 the train pulls up, I get on, settle into a seat where I can actually put my feet up, and I relax for the 10 min train ride. Right before the train pulls out of the station the ticket lady comes by to check my monthly pass and says, "you're going to Secaucus? This train doesn't stop in Secaucus, it's going straight to NY." Well, I leap out of my seat and she attempts to open the door before the train pulls out but no... just miss it. I'm now confused since I read the screens properly, the train arrived the time it was supposed to, and it said NY-SEC. SEC = my stop! It's now 8:17, I sit back in my seat, and take the train into NY - pissed off. We arrive in NY Penn, I bolt through the station to get back to the NJTransit trains and nearly miss the 8:38 train back to Secaucus. Finally arrive at my final destination at 8:47 and wait for the 9am shuttle to take me to my building. But, my wonderful friends from work came to pick me up instead since I was running late and had a hellish commute. I know I read everything right this morning so Newark's train information must have been all jacked up. And, I did this entire commute without my IPod. I wanted to slit my wrists.

Anyone watch "Dancing with the Stars" last night?! I couldn't believe my eyes when Marie Osmond fainted after her dance. It was pretty crazy! I must have rewound it and watched it like 5 times on DVR. But, I'm rooting for the Cheetah Girl - Sabrina. She's AMAZING! Probably the best dancer ever to grace the "Dancing with the Stars" stage.

Every Monday night we have a meeting at work from 5-6pm. You know you always have those 1 or 2 people in the meeting that require way more attention than necessary and therefore make the meeting highly unproductive. Well, we have those 1 or 2. And every meeting we take way too much time explaining things, getting off topic, or waiting for them to finish there pointless tale that they think has some relation to whats going on but really doesn't. I hate it. I zone out. I don't mind meetings as long as they are productive and done in a timely manner. But when you have those people that disrupt the flow and do it constantly it becomes highly annoying and frustrating. Last night was no exception. Good thing for text messaging. Yes, I did it during the meeting and I didn't care.

Tomorrow I have a gyno appointment. It's been 3 1/2 months since I last got my period. No, i'm not pregnant. I've been putting this appointment off because we don't have insurance nor the money to spend but I have to go. So, hopefully after $100 doctor visit they'll figure out what the heck is wrong with me. Good thing my R&R day is Thursday.

"And we break and we burn
and we turn it inside out
to take it back to the start
and through the rise and falling apart
we discover who we are"

--Lifehouse "Who We Are"

Monday, October 22, 2007

Back to Work

Goodmorning everyone - it's Monday. It doesn't matter how much sleep I get on a Sunday night i'm still dragging on Monday's. Let's talk about how the day started... I overslept until 8am. I'm normally up around 6:45/7am. So, super rush to get ready. I decided to take my car instead of the train because I thought I was going to Sparta tonight to meet up with some friends for a drink. But, my inability to utilize a calendar made me forget an all important date with Chrissy tonight. So, canceled plans with the girls and got to work thinking my boss was off today. WRONG. She came in but is leaving early. Her leaving early is an entire work day. Good times. I need a vacation.

How was everyone's weekend? I had a pretty good one. My plans for Friday got completely messed up so that was the only crap night. Not to mention the fact that I was in a bad mood. Saturday, Tommy and I went to Chester. It's this cute little town out in the western part of NJ. It has a bunch of country stores and cafe's but the best store was the GIANT candy shoppe. I mean, any and every kind of candy you can think of. It was actually a little overwhelming because there was so much to take in. We walked out with licorice pipes (for Tommy), candy necklaces, and some lollipops. Afterwards we went to my father-in-laws to pick up some stuff we had sitting in his basement. Definitely need to have a garage sale soon. We have way too much junk. Saturday night me, Tommy, and Sarah went bowling. I got to show off my bowling skillz to an unsuspecting Sarah. It was all business the first game but the second game we completely goofed off. It was a ton of fun. When bowling was over Tommy went to bed and Sarah and I went to 16 Prospect (formerly known as the Trattoria in Westfield). Hung there for awhile then came back to the apartment and stayed up talking till 5am. Yes, 5am. Love those kind of talks! Sunday I slept until 10. I was surprisingly awake even though I didn't get much sleep. Spent the morning and mid afternoon with my mom and ended up having some major IBS issues so I came home and napped a bit. Then spent the remainder of the night watching TV with Sarah. We're junkies. It's bad. Hahaha.

This week is all about surviving until Wednesday night. I've got an R&R day planned on Thursday. A much needed R&R day.

"Looks like somebody's got a case of the Monday's"

Friday, October 19, 2007

Friday... finally!








Those two symbols represent a great night of sports yesterday! Scarlet Knights beat USF 30 - 27 and the BoSox kept themselves alive by beating the Indians 7-1 tying the series 2-2 and bringing the game back to Fenway on Saturday. I know Jay is a happy man because of it! For those of you less interested in sports... I stayed up way too late last night. Sarah & I went to the Colorado Cafe for some really bad karaoke. Well, I mean it was so much fun but karaoke is always terrible - lol. We usually go just to people watch and sing on the sidelines. Anyway, we left at a relatively decent time but ended up talking on her porch till 2am. So, i'm tired today.

Dare I say I have an uneventful weekend planned. Normally my weekend is jammed with stuff but not this time. Maybe Tommy & I will go pick some pumpkins. Of course, it's kind of hard to get in a pumpkin picking mood when it's going to be 80 degrees out. It is Fall right - I mean last time I checked it was almost the end of October. We're supposed to have this...











And instead it's more like this...

This day is dragging but doesn't that beach scene look simply breathtaking. I'm going to imagine myself there the rest of the afternoon.

Thursday, October 18, 2007

When life throws you lemons why do we always have to make lemonade?

I was humbled by my friends blog this morning. Everyone's struggles are different but there are some situations that make you take a step back and think, "I should be thankful for what I have because it could always be worse."

I feel like i've been caught up in the same cycle for the past 6 years. The same problems that plauged us then still plauge us now. Why is that? Oh, we talk about change but do we ever really do it?! What does it take - hitting rock bottom - what if you never do and you just flounder inbetween? I'm not ok with that and i'm not ok with floundering because floundering feels like drowning.

But i'm in a good mood so I refuse to get down.

I also realized last night that i'm not good at being alone. Some people love that time to themselves, even need it to recharge. That's just not me. Tommy was working, Sarah was doing a paper, everyone else was busy, and so I was left to channel surf on my couch. I hated it. I was so bored and almost fell asleep at 9pm. I live off of people - that's where I get my energy. Even if it's someone just keeping me company at home - at least it's human interaction. Thank God for Mr. Marshall and his food shopping excursion to keep me entertained. Oh, and then Liz's phone call at 9:30pm telling me to get dressed b/c she was coming to Westfield so we could go get a drink. Lifesavers - both of them!

Let's talk about Westfield for a second...

I love living in Westfield because I can walk to everything. The downside is it's made me LAZY! I don't ever want to go anywhere that requires me to drive. It's literally like living in the Village of NY but the suburbs of NJ. And, the best part (well, there are many best parts) but I have a Trader Joe's that I can walk to. Yesterday I found the most amazing trail mix there. They have about a hundred different kinds but this one is perfect for me. Now, I LOVE Costco's trailmix. They have a ton of nuts, raisins, and m&m's and it's salty. Technically not so good for you. This trail mix has cashews, almonds, raisins, semi-sweet chocolate pieces, and no salt. So, it's not the best for you but it's a lot healthier than the Costco mix. Yum!

My eyes are watery today. Yesterday there was a cold chill in the air and today it's hot and humid. Good ole Jersey weather. Probably why my eyes are all jacked. Grey's is on tonight. Anyone watch that show. I'm a little disappointed with it so far this season. Izzy needs to get a life, George needs to grow up, and I hope Callie kicks the crap out of them both. The storylines so far this season are terrible. Let's pray it gets better as the season goes on.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Damp Chill

There's a damp chill in the air today. It's the ever present sign that winter is right around the corner. What happened to this summer?! What happened to this year?! I feel like it was only yesterday that I was making my New Year's Resolutions. Which, by the way, I haven't done so well with. I actually never make resolutions but this year I was convinced by a former friend to do just that. Well, the friendship and the resolutions are no longer relevant so there ya go. It was doomed from the start.

Funny thing happened yesterday...

Tommy's family is obsessed with Disney. Most of you know this. To the point where my sister-in-law and mother-in-law have Mickey's face tatooed on their ankles. Well, in October we went for a week with them and I loved it. Who doesn't love Disney - i'm just not naming my first born after a Disney character. Anyway, I don't do chachkies so I wanted to buy something that would remind me of our trip and yet not take over our apartment. I settled with a mug and a key chain. The key chain has become a symbol for the running joke we all have about how crazy Tommy's family is with Disney. About a week and a half ago I had to part with the keychain because it broke. My friend Sarah and I had a brief moment of silence before it was put in the trash. Well, last night Sarah hands me a little gift and I nearly keeled over from laughter. She brought me a Tinker Bell key chain with little blue dangley things on them to replace the keychain I brought at Disney. It's HILARIOUS! I HATE Tinkerbell but it's hanging on my key ring proudly! Hahaha!

That might not be as funny to some of you but if you know my husband's family you'll understand.

Ok, I found out today that yesterday was the 20th anniversary of when Baby Jessica fell in that well in Texas. Do you guys remember that?! She's 21 now and married with a kid. When she turns 25 she'll get close to a million dollars that has been sitting in a trust fund from all the donations given to her when it happened. Craziness!

Really upset Phil got voted off The Biggest Loser last night.
Still upset Hung won Top Chef but I really need to get over that... hahaha

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

A New Day

A new day, a new blog site. I'm giving this a go since I really liked the layout and it's not xanga. I'm going to leave you with a small excerpt from the book i'm currently reading.

"How can it be that in the postinformation age, in the era of the technological revolution, we still need something as primative as love? No matter how many times we fail at love or how many times love fails us, we plow ahead. Even the scars of love rarely stop us from risking at love. Strange as it seems, in the midst of our most painful memories, we find our most treasured ones."